Today is one of those days One of those days I dread. One of those days where I just feel anxious and teary and want to hide from the world. I hate these days with a passion but thankfully they are few and far between.
Since having my twins in 2011, I have dealt with intermittent periods of anxiety. When I get it, it can be crippling. It can render me completely useless and I wander around the house in daze, unsure of what I am doing or what I should be doing. I get absolutely nothing done. Even making dinner can become too much of a challenge. I also become a horrible mother; I snap and yell at the kids and everyone tip toes around me. It’s pretty ordinary.
Over the years I have figured out my triggers and how to best manage to a) prevent the anxiety and b) how to cope when I get it. It’s not fool-proof but I have found that the following helps:
1. Low carb healthy fat – I find that eating this way keeps my blood glucose stable which helps keep my moods stable. I’ve also found that eating enough protein and fat keeps me full and keeps me from eating crap that sets my moods off.
2. Exercise – when I’m anxious and I exercise, I feel better 100% of the time. It is my absolute fail-safe.
3. Sleep – there is something absolutely magical about sleep. I can have the most horrible day with the world about to end but then I get a good night sleep and all of a sudden everything is ok again.
4. Cry – there is something so incredibly therapeutic about just having a good old cry!
5. Facing my fears – what we feed grows which means if I avoid the things that make me anxious, it just gets bigger and bigger in my mind. Facing my anxiety head on helps me see that I don’t have anything to be anxious about.
6. Learning to rest – my life is pretty full on. At the moment I am juggling my business solo, I’m doing 2 post-graduate uni subjects, I’m developing new programs, I have merchandise ready to sell, I run group training, I see clients privately and in-between all that I have four incredible children and a long-suffering husband I think I’m one of those people who feels guilty if I’m doing nothing and I certainly feel guilty for taking a day to lie on the couch. But I’ve learnt that if I don’t take “mental health” days it ends up taking me.
7. Learning to say no – you can’t be everything to everyone and you have to learn to say no. I stopped taking medicare referrals earlier this year and am not taking on many new clients for this very reason.
8. Doing things for me – you can’t give from an empty cup so every now and then I try to do things that are just for me.
9. Accepting that it’s ok to not be ok – I don’t have to be brave all the time and sometimes it’s completely ok to let others take over.
10. Meditating – I spend time every morning reading God’s word and reminding myself about who God says I am and who He is. It has improved my anxiety out of sight.
I hope some of these points help you and remember that no matter how you are feeling, you are worthwhile, you are more than enough, you are worth the effort and you are not alone.